I offer my UK LGBT counselling services to people irrespective of gender or sexuality, but am committed to offering a space for people whose sexuality/gender may have experienced prejudice and judgment from society as a whole. This means that as well as being LGBTQIA+ affirmative (or GSM (gender and sexual minorities), GSRD (Gender, Sexuality and Relationship Diversity) or whichever catch all or alternative you prefer), I am also affirming and welcoming towards people whose sexuality and sexual preferences/practices may be misunderstood by others. I welcome people from the BDSM/kink community, and those whose relationships may not be based on gender or sexual binaries or traditional formats, such as M/s, D/s, bisexuals, pansexuals, genderqueer, polyamorous, swingers, and so forth. I am sex and sex worker positive (and listed in NUM’s new directory of SW friendly therapists) and am committed to a non pathologising and non shaming approach to working with sex and relationships (or not working with sex at all if you happen to lean towards the asexual end of the spectrum).
While some people identify in ways such as above, many people are still curious or evolving and exploring and do not subscribe to a specific label or consider themselves to be part of any “community”. Perhaps you are still trying to figure out what some of the above means to you, and where it fits into your life and relationships – this is something I would be happy to help you explore in an environment free of preconception, agenda and judgment.
While I am happy to work with any sexuality or gender related issues, I am also happy to work with you on any number of issues such as bereavement, depression, stress, anxiety, self esteem, and so on, without you having to fear that your gender or sexuality will become a focus if you don’t want it to.
I am very willing to work with people who are de-transitioning as in my experience this can be a very misunderstood and isolating place to be.
As a bisexual/pansexual male in a world where male bisexuality can still be very much misunderstood and maligned, even within the LGBT sphere, I may be particularly suitable to work with men who are struggling with feelings of shame or find it hard to come to terms with the bisexual part of their sexual identity (believe me, I have been through that myself, acceptance doesn’t always come easily!). I am as happy to work with trans men as well as cisgender men (if you’re not familiar with the latter term it just means you were born male and identify as male!). For the record, bisexuality is common, normal, and OK, and probably very much under-reported by men in particular due to the homophobia and biphobia still at play in society at large! In my book there is absolutely nothing wrong with being sexually or emotionally attracted (or both!) to another human being regardless of their sex/gender.
If you are not in Manchester and looking for a UK Kink aware therapist (you don’t necessarily have to be in the UK yourself!), I am willing to consider online counselling, for example email counselling or video based counselling (or just good old fashioned telephone counselling!) I’m aware there are not too many kink aware counsellors out there and so this can be a useful alternative to face to face counselling for those unable to reach me in person.
If you have any questions please contact me via my Contact Page.